It’s nice to complain to others about the things that bother and worry us. It’s nice to have a listening ear for our concerns. It’s nice to know that people will empathise with us and give us comforts and assurances which will make us feel good about ourselves. I read somewhere, that the things that make us feel nice, soon become addictive. The good feelings we get, from being the center of attention, because of our problems, are hard to deny and we constantly have the urge to feed them, by complaining even more.
But, sooner or later, our complaints get old, boring and annoying. However, this doesn’t stop some people from finding new things to complain about. Before long, these persons identify themselves as victims. Victims of life, victims of the world, victims of society, victims of economics, victims of the system, victims of politics and the list goes on. What they fail to realise however, is that they have become victims of themselves.
What is it to be a victim of yourself? It’s when you, as an individual, stop taking responsibility for the actions which got you into problems in the first place. Because your actions can always be blamed on the perceived scheming/actions/doing of someone else, you will never feel the need to be accountable for the things wrong in your life. Soon, the victim persona emerges and life becomes inconsequential, because everyone else is to blame and everyone else has to fix your problems for you.
In their need to feed the shallow feelings of importance, victims become even more defeatist in their approach to life. They begin to believe that life owes them and when the debt isn’t paid, they feel depressed, betrayed and lost. That is until someone new and understanding pays heed to them.
Victims can save themselves. They can rise above their problems and they can live productive lives. When faced with an issue, instead of decrying it’s existence and blaming everyone else for its presence, people need to sit and try to figure out how to fix the problem. After the problem is solved, a little introspection is required of course, just in case the issue arose because of your actions. Owning up to, solving and then learning from your mistakes, are the first steps to being a victor in your own life. And, that’s a good feeling to have.